tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post8497257228620561990..comments2011-08-13T16:08:17.515-07:00kimcoohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06914056025667076616noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-33673984456134173202011-08-13T10:32:54.329-07:002011-08-13T10:32:54.329-07:00Wow Kim Cooper I am so proud of you girlfriend !<br />I also like the the comment about a &quot;partner not playing fair&quot;. It was very good advice as usual from you.I&#39;m going through a battle right now where no one is playing fair but that&#39;s o.k. because I know that I will win also.Although reading your article put a little more strength in my back to hold on tight to the decision I&#39;ve made to leave my mate.Throughout the ride I am about to experience I will continue to seek your<br />wonderful guidance in order to blossom.That&#39;s what other woman are supposed to be to each other right?Patriciahttp://how2savemyrelationship.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-71503855894459356932010-12-20T17:43:37.793-08:002010-12-20T17:43:37.793-08:00Congrats to you Kim on the victory . This may be a victory that you can see on pen and paper , but I would like to commend you with a victory that you and your husband have personally achieved.<br />The work that your web site has done along with the techniques expressed in your books have cured a friend of mine of thier narcissism.<br />They explain to me that never before have they had such freedom and love for themselves and others .Through this they can now look forward to a genuine future and have the toolkit in thier hands that can allow them to experience successful relationships.<br />Love comes in many forms , the touchy , giving ,sweet talking type and also the tough , relentless and discipline type.<br />You seem to me to be discerning in the methodologies you employ given most situations. And for that you are a great example of a person that will leave a commendable stamp upon this world.<br />Keep up the good work it doesn’t go unnoticedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-77570359921897270892010-12-19T04:40:24.912-08:002010-12-19T04:40:24.912-08:00Well done Kim with the outcome of dealing with the questionable leadership within the community. Dealing with a narcisstic person or group is hard work but luckly is now also easier for myself too! I was taught to not think thus be weak but that&#39;s history now:). I also can relate to the special places in Nature where the connection to my creator is much clearer. Very important to me. Thanks again for all you and Steve do and enjoy your continued success...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-73937300059862920352010-12-18T15:11:16.528-08:002010-12-18T15:11:16.528-08:00Thank you so much for saving those beautiful trees! There&#39;s just no way to express what magic trees bring to us and the world. And the ouster of the behind-the-scenes destructive sociopath who would kill them for no reason is perfect. So very well done. Your city and the world is a better place because of you, in so many ways!Colorado USA friendnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-83423545282265556382010-12-15T16:44:26.388-08:002010-12-15T16:44:26.388-08:00Kim, You do give hope where there didn&#39;t used to be. Here in the USA we have a huge divorce rating. I think that is the biggest problem-- that no one tries to make it work. I think mostly because no one knew how. Your lighting the way for many families and now your community. Look at the impact you are having when you were able to grow. The codependents that will grow because you lite the way. I am excited to learn what I can do for mine. Thank YouAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-8277241400933184702010-12-15T13:39:18.411-08:002010-12-15T13:39:18.411-08:00So happy for you. Thank you for all you have done &amp; continue to do. Trees are the one place I can go to for healing as well. As I read your story I thought of my special place and how upset I would be if this was happening in my community. I am so proud of you for speaking up and I believe this battle saved more than just trees.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-3680686096048850582010-12-15T11:38:49.291-08:002010-12-15T11:38:49.291-08:00Be Blessed in your work. People take their habits from the bedroom to the boardroom. Unless we can take what we learn about emotional abuse from our private relationships to community building, we cannot infect the society with more positive outcomes.<br /><br />God is love; love is God.Rev. C. Mark Ealyhttp://www.ifl.jovialcat.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-59483815657091850142010-12-15T10:58:21.975-08:002010-12-15T10:58:21.975-08:00From all of us who love trees and appreciate their beauty, their dynamic place in our ecosystem and the pleasure they bring our lives--congratulations on winning a difficult and seemingly impossible victory!Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12810892053811166149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-33583669517251582372010-12-15T08:00:47.651-08:002010-12-15T08:00:47.651-08:00Bravo to you from Jacksonville, FL USA. You guys are awesome!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-86697624392657129002010-12-15T07:58:41.035-08:002010-12-15T07:58:41.035-08:00Wonderful victory. As Chief Seattle said once, what befalls the earth befalls the people of the earth. And Abe Lincoln said something like evil is allowed to flourish when the good people of the world do nothing. It takes courage to take a stand and say &#39;No more&#39;especially with the earth, the trees and those beings that are voiceless and unable to do it for themselves.That&#39;s a sign of maturity, to have the guts to be disliked. You&#39;re so right about maturity and having some hard work to do growing up. If you come from dysfunction, you&#39;re usually an adult child. Bravo on doing the right thing and backing down the city council.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16658684757355502447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-28060192590480484522010-12-15T06:36:52.593-08:002010-12-15T06:36:52.593-08:00Kim, This is really a big deal. I have long felt that I was placed in relationship specifically to strengthen me for the future, which it has. I have to say that when I was looking for help, your information was the ONLY call to sanity that I encountered, both in the real world and in the cyber world. There are many beautiful trees standing, in the forms of men and women with their families because of your speaking up for all of us. You go girl, you know it, as my aunt said to me &quot; What dragons are you going to slay next? &quot; Congradulations on the victory, and Merry Christmas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-53963323523953511452010-12-15T06:34:46.533-08:002010-12-15T06:34:46.533-08:00I love trees and that is my soothing place to go as well. Working in the garden sooths me it it isn&#39;t horrible but give me a bunch of tree when things are really bad.Ceilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09046470227305798117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-50369017035563012322010-12-15T06:11:20.467-08:002010-12-15T06:11:20.467-08:00Hope and work = results! Congratulations for believing...in people, in trees and in miracles. Thank you for being present in my life. You are a blessing.Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-9964150197675837692010-12-15T05:21:43.133-08:002010-12-15T05:21:43.133-08:00yes and amen,, I don&#39;t want to sound religious but I would like to say that this came at a &#39;very&#39; key time. I am struggling with similar stuff...lots could be said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-8659801683460551662010-12-15T04:04:18.388-08:002010-12-15T04:04:18.388-08:00Wonderful results! It is nice to be listened to by our elected representatives. I just read the US book &#39;The No Asshole Rule&#39; by Robert I. Sutton. It illustrates that when bullying/narcistic behavior at work is spotted and not rewarded but discouraged at every level, the work environment and efficiency improves within and around the company. It gives many excellent tips for both sides to help eliminate narcistic behavior. These reinforce Kim&#39;s tips and many can be applied to personnal relationships too. As in Kim and Steve&#39;s examples, rallying help around you, taking small steps and highlighting every positive result such as today&#39;s trees story show how we can chip away at this worldwide problem. Think of the old french proverb: Patience and length of time achieve more than might and rage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-28633718419643045512010-12-14T21:20:42.062-08:002010-12-14T21:20:42.062-08:00Yeah Baby!<br />Hope.<br />xoxoxoxo<br />To you, Steve, and the children.<br />I&#39;m so pleased.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-46140334539198337732010-12-14T20:11:16.215-08:002010-12-14T20:11:16.215-08:00Thank you for the hope you inspire in codependents like me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-48190302801734946622010-12-14T19:30:54.644-08:002010-12-14T19:30:54.644-08:00What a beautiful interweaving of personal activism with relationship healing and hope! You have nailed the narcissistic &quot;my way or the highway&quot; point of view that explains how self absorbed leaders manage to do a lot of damage without making any sense. Congratulations on your victory and the healing of your relationship as well.Shannon Batts, MS, LMFT, LPChttp://www.relationshipgardening.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-87478845321051188962010-12-14T18:57:24.806-08:002010-12-14T18:57:24.806-08:00I&#39;m really happy for you and your community, I know that feeling of working so hard on something you want that you think it is kicking your butt in the process and fear it won&#39;t pay off...and then it does! It&#39;s like you hear the choir singing and the sun shining, it gives purpose and confidence in your abilities. <br />Unfortunately I am married to a narcissist and have not yet felt this breakthrough with him. I have bought and read all you and Steve&#39;s e-books and actively taken part of it, but every time I try to introduce the gap work to my husband, he refuses and says he doesn&#39;t need it, maybe I do but he doesn&#39;t. After a recent blow up about nothing, where he broke a computer on purpose, (luckily his), he told me HE wanted a divorce! I was more flabbergasted than anything, I didn&#39;t even get upset, I still haven&#39;t. Here I am the one who could have left him a million times and trying to make it work, I almost laugh a little when I think about him saying that. Am I just emotionally numb, I haven&#39;t even cried or cared. I mean I know I have successfully stopped letting him control my emotions based on his outburst, his words and actions don&#39;t upset me anymore because I know it has everything to do with him and not me, but I guess I am just not sure what to do at this point? Should I be feeling nothing when he tells me HE wants a divorce?<br />I don&#39;t mean to rain on your parade and again, as a lover and climber of many trees, I congratulate you on being part of saving them. And I thank you from all the way over in the south United States for helping the Earth breathe a little better. God Bless.nofearnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2525832101135014045.post-57536487473867609912010-12-14T16:04:32.512-08:002010-12-14T16:04:32.512-08:00Congratulations to you and your treesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com