Comments on Narcissism Daily Mirror: Your Dream Lover

I have 2 suggestions for developing this into an e...

2012-02-25T07:41:42.218-08:00

I have 2 suggestions for developing this into an ebook: first, add sugar to your addiction list (having just relapsed the other day after 2 months of no sugar, this addiction let me know how real a problem it is for me. I am left managing my moods while I deal with a bad cold. Not fun.) and second, determine the difference between a deeply held value and a consideration you're denying yourself - and help people to figure out the difference.

I value the integrity in myself, so, I demand honesty from the people around me. Expecting that from my lover does not mean I don't give it to myself, but that it's a deeply held value in my life. Helping your readers to figure this out would make this article and idea an invaluable resource worthy of payment.

Everything else in this article is spot on. I will be referencing back to this article quite a bit as I develop the self love I am desperately needing. My main issues when dealing with fear have to do with outside forces, other peoples influence. If I fear something I have control over, I just power through it. If I fear something that I need other people's involvement or participation in, I freeze. Oh boy, do I freeze. Otherwise, I'm pretty courageous. Wish I could be more so when dealing with other people. It's not that easy for me, so this will be a lot of work and effort (two things I also don't allow myself in self care).

I have a relationship I'm trying to develop and she represents where I would like to be in my life right now. I am deeply afraid of getting close to her for fear of... success, failure, both... not sure. I haven't fully explored those feelings yet, but just recently realized that she intimidates me BECAUSE I'm afraid of what she represents for me. I believe overcoming my fear in relation to her will open wide doors I once felt too sacred to touch.

I really think this article will help me further develop my self reliance - and in doing so, my self love. Thank you for writing it. And please excuse my utilitarian manner, I tend to get right to the point.

Hi H, I am not sure what happened to the end of ...

2012-02-08T13:41:56.683-08:00

Hi H,

I am not sure what happened to the end of your post. As hard as this all is - it is so much better that you are out of the dark. The time has come now for you to get much stronger and keep working through the steps. I would not trust the solicitor that is suggesting you leave town. Why should you leave town? You have nothing to be ashamed of!

Your husband has also probably heard (from this man) that you know - and so I don't think there is any hurry. Let him sweat and wonder what is coming - while you build your strength as outlined in the steps in Back From the Looking Glass.

You stay strong and in charge and don't let him get you in a spin!

You may feel ashamed but you must overcome that. You have nothing to be ashamed of and now you need to hold your head high and calmly and slowly pull in information and support.

The evidence you need will come if you don't play your hand too soon.

Also you might find if there are neighbors you can get to watch your house.

As tough as this time is for you the steps are all there - and you would do well to also start working on the exercises in The Love Safety Net Workbook.

Remember the dance of grief? You need to stay strong for your kids and work through this now in a way that will eventually bring peace to your family.

This is going to take time for you to work through and become stronger but now is your time to grow and eventually shine.

You will be victorious over this situation - I just know it - but it is going to take time and deliberation and you must not let him destabilize you and your kids.

You may forgive him and you may not - but first you need 100% out of the dark and to heal your own codependence so you can deal with this emotionally volatile situation with courage but also making sure that you are no longer disrespected and exploited. This will earn the respect of the people around you - but it will take time.

Personal growth is often painful but you are on your way.

Hang in there H!

Kim Cooper

Dear Kim I have recently purchased your book Back ...

2012-02-08T08:07:52.012-08:00

Dear Kim
I have recently purchased your book Back from the Looking Glass and wish I had done years ago.
Having been married over 30 years everything fits into place, only now I feel a fool. My husband is self employed working in a female office, he,s rarely taken time off, often not given presents for birthdays and not shown much interest in me and the kids over the years.
I put it down to running a business, he never went out in the evenings or weekends so I never suspected any thing.
The only time I could have been more aware was after our first child when I was diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease which he manged to convince me was a hospital mix up.
I had my own friends worked part time and generally ran the home, trusting him completely, then 2 years ago I received text messages to my mobile saying horrible stuff, naturally he denied it. Then I found a bracelet left in the house, some of my underwear was taken, things moved about. It reminded me of years earlier when a shirt had lipstick on it I didnt even bother to ask as I knew he,d say it was a client peck on the cheek.
Now I feel a fool I went to see a Solicitor who knew him who said now I knew I,d be leaving town.
Trouble is I know and don,t know as he wont talk and I feel I,ve lost my confidence I,ve dropped friends who I thought behaved badly around him, one said she,d done something to offend me but I dearn,t ask what. I,m a mess.
Years ago it seemed someone was coming into the house when I was at work leaving a couple of things behind, he said it was a neighbour only they didnt have a key. I must have been mad my only excuse is that our second child was born with problems needing 13 years of hospital treatment ,surgery , thankfully now ok.
I,m finding this hard going
H

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Dear Kim, is it purely coincidential that my husba...

2012-02-01T14:10:06.440-08:00

Dear Kim,
is it purely coincidential that my husband is named Steve and has dark hair, prominent jaw and thick, dark eyebrows, like yours? And that I have recognized a narcissist in him? I'm almost tempted to post a photograph, although I share little to nothing online...
Thanks for your work!

Hi anon, I cannot stress how important I believe...

2011-09-29T16:24:06.230-07:00

Hi anon,

I cannot stress how important I believe it is that you go right now and purchase my ebook Back From the Looking Glass and follow the steps in it. He does not have to see or agree to anything for you to take those steps. You CAN change your family dynamic by refusing to see yourself as a victim or prey. If I had believed the professionals who said that Steve was incurable where would I be now? Part of loving yourself is learning how to stand up for yourself!

Kim Cooper
http://www.narcissismcured.com

Thank you Kim for sharing your life story and ligh...

2011-09-29T08:54:31.620-07:00

Thank you Kim for sharing your life story and lightening the load we carry in our hearts , living with physical , emotional and psychological abuse.
Many of us live in almost unbearable circumstances and seek to connect to others who have experienced similar situations in our marriages and family lives.
I am one of these people.
I feel deep compassion for anyone who has cowered in the the face of a cold , calculated put down meant to disable a persons sense of fairness, self respect and self-esteem. The false sense of power in the aggressor only serves to feed his ego even further, as he convinces his prey that they are completely to blame for any relationship problems , thus they maintain control over their victims .
I have spent many decades trying to figure out how to raise a family , stay in the marriage inspite of the complicated scenario I live - that is my life.
We are unable to work on changing family dynamic, as his inability to see his own failings prevent us from working together . Marriage counseling unveiled a borderline psychopathic problem for which there is no cure . In fact , I believe he proud of it , as it is part of the package that I need to accept and learn to embrace . At times I feel very lonely , few notice the two sided facets of personality as the condescending , passive aggressive behavior is often camouflaged and directed at me privately. I have learned to cope in private , as well , nursing my broken heart, wondering how I will endure a lifetime of this behavior. To leave him would destroy the life we have built for 30 years...
Thank goodness I do love myself , I am a good person and appreciate the beauty that surrounds us, as this is what keeps me going one day at a time . It really helps heal my broken heart to share my story , as well. We can all learn from Narcissus- no matter what our age.

in short, he won't believe that my parents and...

2011-07-30T11:08:28.956-07:00

in short, he won't believe that my parents and others see me as good enough or even myself, and persists in trying to make me think i 'need' his approval to be myself. what can i say to him in response to that? this is demoralizing

he's told me he is a masochist but his behavio...

2011-07-28T22:12:26.016-07:00

he's told me he is a masochist but his behavior looks otherwise. one time he told me ''i have my (late) father's killer charm!" He's let me know his late mother 'did too much' for him but 'didn't fill (his) needs'...so it's like women are there just to fill his needs. really hard to figure out at times; i have to be careful not to do anything for him without the attitude that i am not filling his needs. one need he seems to have is a woman who 'looks good' ; he's presumed i 'need his help' ( i have a minor disability) when my parents didn't raise me to see myself that way. I've had to put up with petty, nitpicking putdowns about my appearance, even when he knows i have done everything i could to make the most of my looks.

After writing my dream lover list, it dawned on me...

2011-07-21T03:49:38.629-07:00

After writing my dream lover list, it dawned on me I was selling myself short. I wasn't asking for much. In attempting to simplify things for my NPD husband, I'd pared my needs right back. When he wouldn't stop ridiculing me, I reduced that to stop interrupting me, when he wouldn't do that, I moved the goalposts again. Eventually he was back to behaving as he pleased without regard to my feelings or wishes.
A few days ago, I told him if he kept up the behaviour, I would only have the most basic of exchanges with him and otherwise not converse with him. His response is that I'm being harsh, he's misunderstood but I'm wise to him playing the victim to him portraying me as the persecutor. It was his trick to prevent me from looking after myself by getting me to feel guilty for not taking his abuse. Said like that I both wince and smile. His 'poor me' routine no longer fools me.
I've learnt to be more forgiving towards myself and raise my expectations. If I don't care myself and respect, how can I expect others to respect me.

Hi Kim, I don't know how I found this web pag...

2011-05-22T16:57:46.792-07:00

Hi Kim,

I don't know how I found this web page, but I am so grateful for having done so. I am still paralyzed with sadness over the recent break up with my mate. I am going to keep reading, and make a purchase, and WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH ME.

Keep writing,
Stuck, though not for long,
Tracy

Thank you Kim! I know I am guilty of having let m...

2011-03-13T21:27:17.676-07:00

Thank you Kim! I know I am guilty of having let my grown children move in my house (even though it is necessary) I feel like I have lost control. Things aren't neat as a pin, my yard looks awful, and we have a new puppy. The one thing I need the most, is like you, time to myself. I'm trying to quit smoking to, and they all smoke. I love my family, but would like to selfishly have my home to myself. I've lived with someone else for almost the last 30 years and I'm tired and just want sometime for me.

I am in the situation that my partner has left and...

2011-02-03T09:01:06.453-08:00

I am in the situation that my partner has left and i am fighting a huge feeling -- it has been 5 months so surely this feeling should lessen but it does not -- of loss. And re-thinking all the things he said. And asking myself why I could not deal with other personal issues and him and not need looking after. And knowing that sometimes one fails and thats how it is and one has to pick up the chips and go on. He told me everything that had gone wrong with his life was down to me. He has a host of sympathetic freinds who will think he is difficult but also think I am to blame. I think I have been because I went to a therapist who told me I was causing all the difficulties because I did not confront or say what I needed. Whatever went wrong -- I know I tried. Now he does not want any contact and I am fighting a huge hurt and need to hear from him. I know the best thing I can do is shoulder the sky and drink some ale and get on with my own life. I know I have to find my jou in myself. But I keep thinking of how to break things further when I want to mend them. I know I cannot mend anything. I think I need to have a divorce rather than just not hearing from him but I do not know how to ask for it. I do not trust my heart because my heart is being co-dependent -- or just longing for some resolution. I wish we could find our friendship and kindness even if not living together and sometimes think getting the divorce would make it possible. I have blown everything. I do look after myself and am happy often but then the under toe comes and I miss his company badly and have to remind myself that his company was very hard work. Help.

Hi Kim I am on to working the Love Safety Handboo...

2011-01-31T16:28:03.859-08:00

Hi Kim
I am on to working the Love Safety Handbook. We are making small steps in progress. I do own all of your books and the have been read over many times. The Children and I are still living apart from my husband. I am learning many new skills to help me and the children relate to each other. My husband is working very hard to understand himself and work towards getting his family back. The steps are bring us closer. We are working on attatchments and communication skills. We all suffer in those areas. One more day, one more step, one more success. Yes there are the failures but we are all learning to move on and keep working towards the next sucess. Thanks Finances are always an issue when you have a second home. It hasn't been easy, however I must say it is worth the hard work.

Kim and Steve's materials really do work. I o...

2011-01-23T21:25:49.565-08:00

Kim and Steve's materials really do work. I ordered their book and workbook about five months ago out of pure desperation. My immediate change in behavior did result in immediate change in my husband's. But, I didn't do some of the more extreme things recommended because I wasn't sure they were necessary and I thought they would cause more conflict. Within the last week, I have been forced to. While they were difficult, and I doubted myself, just as Kim warned me I would, instead of reacting negatively, my husband sat on the sofa with me tonight and showed genuine affection - something I started to think he was not capable of. He normally goes to our bedroom and watches TV all night.

I just wanted to give some hope to those of you who feel frustrated and trapped. This program is hard, and you truly have to do all the work, but it is worth it, especially if you have children and you don't know how you will handle sharing custody. That was my biggest fear.

Kim, this was one of the most inspiring things I h...

2011-01-22T14:39:43.877-08:00

Kim, this was one of the most inspiring things I have read. It hits the heart and the head at the same time. Thank-you! I believe this is something we all know is true...but it is easier to be a coward and therefore we resort to the blame game.
To have courage is hard and scarey!! To be there for yourself is like being your own parent. Again thank-you for all your insight and for sharing.

Yes, "Of course the stupid women just end up ...

2011-01-19T17:23:16.205-08:00

Yes, "Of course the stupid women just end up going back to him." Is the standard line I have heard over and over - from people that should really know better - but it is so common a cliche and the problem not a simple one to solve everyone just ends up saying it ...

And when the person does go home of course little has changed.

In my case what worked instead was turning my own home into a safe house and working setting boundaries from a base where I felt more familiar and secure and had my things (a lot of which I need to take care of myself right) around me.

So to the woman who first wrote saying she is scared of the finacial consequences of leaving I really do understand. It is great that you have called the police in and limited the physical abuse and now the exercise I mentioned I hope will help you take this a step further.

You should also start asking around and see if you can find a divorce lawyer that you can trust. Make sure that someone you know knows them personally and that you have the questions you need answered written down and that you stick to these points in your meetings and don't expect them to rescue you.

You need to know what evidence you will need in court for a simple divorce that will provide for you and your sons financial needs. You husband will lie and do anything to derail this so you need to know how to put forward the most simple and rock solid case that you can that someone with experience in your area knows the judge will likely be sympathetic to.

If a divorce if what you want you need to play this very straight and very clean and also it would probably be a good idea to let your husband believe or even say in some way he has "won" so he is less likely to persue revenge.

Divorce is not something you should ever play at to teach your partner a lesson however and if there is someplace in your heart that is hoping that the divorce will make him admit they he is sorry and try and make it up to you I am afraid that you will probably lose alot of money only to find that doesn't work.

If you want a divorce you must be certain of that and you must be ready to play a very hard quick game and be ready to play to win.

You having an affair now will put yourself on extremely shakey ground in regards to divorce law and significantly reduce your likelihood of solving the entanglement you are now in with any kind of closure.

OK this is just my own personal opinion and experinece and of course you need to make your own best judgements about what will work best to keep you safe.

Kim Cooper
http://www.narcissismcured.com

Hi everyone and thanks for the comments, I only ha...

2011-01-19T17:22:11.990-08:00

Hi everyone and thanks for the comments, I only have a moment but to anon who wrote the review of After the Dance ... yes please send your review to info@narcissismsupport.com and let me know if you mind us publishing it or where it will be published? Also to the suggestion that I write a post called tips, suggestions and comebacks, the funny thing is that I was just thinking of doing something similar to that so thanks for your ideas, it will happen very soon.

To the woman who can't afford to leave I would strongly suggest that you look at the exercise in the Love Safety Net Workbook called "Your personal Bill of Rights" and consider what it suggests.

In response to the other comment on safe houses I really need to make it clear that the points you have highlighted from our recommendations are only part of what we suggest. We also insist that it is vital that you keep yourself safe and put real limits on the abuse. Loving yourself and self soothing does NOT mean that you should ignore or tolerate abusive behaviour. This is criticism we have had leveled at us for 3 years now so please understand my need to be direct about this. We do not tell people they should stay and 'suck it up' as I feel your letter implies. We give solid advice on setting real limits on the abuse and also give advice on leaving as well.

Our ebook "Back from the Looking Glass" does not specificaly deal with safe houses but it does deal extensively with how to talk to the authorities in a way that will require they take action and give you the best chance of getting help. Finding a safe house is something fairly specific to each area and we have people from all over the world read our website and blog so giving advice on that would be nearly impossible.

Building a support network and seeking help correctly while loving and taking care of yourself and learning to handle your own emotions better CAN be extremely challenging, but I don't think it wise to suggest that simply finding a safe house and leaving is an easier solution.

A safe house for instance will not solve a person's financial problems in seperating.

In the case of someone who is financially dependent on their abusive spouse I believe that dealing with the hard task of sorting the unlawful and inappropriate behaviour from the lies in a way that their partner must face the consequences of their behaviour is probably even more important.

I have stayed in a safe house and know many people who have (as well as many people who have worked and financed safe houses) and my experienece is that generaly after a few days of basic rations and little or no contact with the outside world (and once their emotions have calmed down) most women are of course wanting to go home.

The people who work in these facilities will however often then consider this weak or stupid of them ...

Kim, A lot of comments here. Would you please st...

2011-01-19T12:07:53.399-08:00

Kim,

A lot of comments here. Would you please start a separate new article or blog titled "Tips, Comebacks, Suggestions and Information" so some of us who have learned from your articles/products and our personal experiences with NPDs can make this blog useful to each other ?

I would like to post many tips from what I have experienced and learned and would like to learn from other NPD victims, so we can face it and deal with it rather than moan and groan about how helpless we are.

Re the woman who writes that she is co-dependent a...

2011-01-19T03:19:55.651-08:00

Re the woman who writes that she is co-dependent and would like out only she cannot for financial reasons. maybe not every person with NPD is redeemable. Maybe sometimes it is more psychopathic than NPD? Maybe there are times when safe houses for women and making a clean break are best. I have a friend who watched his mother mistreated for all his childhood and only recently recalled that he too was mistreated when he tried to defend her but he was too small and he could not defend her.Later he felt angry with her for not leaving his father and felt too that she really could not because of the financial situation. Then -- late in life -- he punched his father and watched him fall over. He did not pursue the moment. He did not want to act thus. But he said it releaed all the pain because for one moment he saw his father where his father had kept him and his mother and knew one always had a choice how to treat others and that was his father's choice. mabe his father was a frightened child unable to find the lovee he needed and destroying any love offered because he did not deserve anything good -- maybe. But there is still you and you are being hurt.If you snip and think -- maybe I want to be happy again so I will not let this control my happiness now -- maybe. But the effort to do that is huge. And the love necessary to do that is huge. One needs to love oneself unconditionally and spiritedly while needing nothin from ones partner. One needs not to frighten ones partner but one is human and inevitably frightened oneself. One is ill and yet must find all ones comfort from within or in specific ways from friends who give very conditional but also patient love? That is a huge choice. Sometimes its the choice that would lead to greater happiness and yet one fails and becomes needy. That is me. But sometimes its a choice that cannot be made. And the truth is what one needs is another partner. and another life. Then safe houses and networks of support for vulnerable women must come into play. And onem must need to know how to resource them. I think the teacher writing to say she would leave s she could afford to is in that place. To love and look after herself she needs to feel financially safe. Maybe Kim can offer some pointers a on how to find a safe house.

Dear Kim -- i have been deeply grateful for your a...

2011-01-18T15:41:49.203-08:00

Dear Kim -- i have been deeply grateful for your articles -- I would never have found a useful way out of co-dependency or understood what I was experiencing if it had not been for you. I wrote this essay -- i speak about the Rattigan play and I am writing about the play. But the deeper understanding comes from my own experience and from the help I have had from you. I can only post a segment of the essay but if you like that then tell me how i can send the rest.

An exploration of Terrence Rattigan’s play “After the Dance” and how it is a play quintessentially about narcissism with reference to Neville Symington’s new thinking regarding narcissism and the controversial Web site set up by Kim and Steve Cooper called “The Love Safety net” .

“ They should be taken out and shot? “ says my Spanish friend as he and his New Zealander partner share a pizza and a glass of wine with me in his Spanish town. By the time this has been pronounced Paco’s sweet, gentle, slightly ironic persona has taken out and shot a great number of the more irritating characters in the world and I am perfectly convinced that he, more than anyone, would shoot no one. But at the present moment he is quite willing to shoot all narcissists. The world - in his estimation - would certainly be better off without a group of people who treat others as merely useful objects to be exploited or discarded. “But what if ” say I “ the society we live in breeds narcissists and even prefers their chameleon like natures -- Will we shoot everyone who tells us to have a nice day without any desire to know we have other plans? And what if we are the narcissists!”

To answer some of these considerations it is first necessary to know what being a narcissist means.

In Terrence Rattigan’s beautiful play After the Dance we encounter David and Joan Scott-Fowler in their beautiful London chambers with a spectacular view of London. They are bright young things only they are not so young; now in middle age. They belong to a generation just younger than that hewn down by the first world war. And this is crucial. They are part of a world that lost faith in its adults and in a future. They turn to their peers for attachment and find no immediate older brothers who might twin them and reveal a pathway blazed. They find children, like themselves, intent only on forgetting the war. They party, they do drugs, they are alcoholics -- they are not adults. Are they narcissists or part of a narcissitic world?

Into this world come two younger characters. Helen Barren and Peter Scott-Fowler ( nephew of Joan and Peter) . Helen thinks she sees what to do. She believes David wishes to achieve more in his life than he is doing. She will make him give up drink. She says “ You see when you were eighteen you didn’t have anyone of 22, or 25 or 30 or 35 to help you. Because they’d been wiped out. And anyone over 40 you wouldn’t listen to...’ ( After the Dance, p28) and she asks ‘Why are you always trying to look back?’ ( After the Dance, p28 ) The inevitable happens. David agrees he will divorce Joan and give up drinking. This will be his ‘ segunda vida ‘. He is not convincing to us -- the audience. But Helen is truly ruthless. Though David is not able to actually tell Joan -- Helen pre-empts him and tells her herself. And tells Peter to whom she is engaged. She pretends that she has no idea what effect this information will have on them and is delighted when Joan takes it without a seeming care in the world. But the audience can see both Peter and Joan will be destroyed. Is Helen a mirror image of David? Is she drawn to him because she sees something of herself? Is she just very young -- only 20?

My first time posting, though I've been period...

2011-01-18T08:24:15.043-08:00

My first time posting, though I've been periodically reading articles and posts from this site. I am married (10 years) to a man with NPD and am a co-dependent. I am his 3rd wife, have stayed with him longer than the first 2 (they left after 2 and 8 years: had affairs first), but even though I've been in counseling throughout the marriage (I wish I had lived with him first , then maybe I might have seen the NPD and how abusive it would be for me) and we've been through 5 marriage therapists (each time when they close in on the real problems, he quits therapy citing they are not as well educated as he is!)...I want to give up though will be finacially destitute if I do because I gave up my career and moved to his state. I am a teacher who is now 56 years old and no one will hire me. He has maintained control over me and our finances and I think planned it this way in order to keep me from leaving him (and embarrasing him publically) as did every other woman before me. He used to physically abuse me but after being arrested twice has stopped that. But now the emotional and verbal abuse and neglect (I've battle cancer twice since we've married, had treatments, ER admissions and surgeries that he never joined me for...and has even said so many times that he hopes I die!!!!). I do love myself and obviously have mastered taking care of my physical self out of necessity but I have 4 sons who would suffer financially if I left. I agree with the person who shared how she struggled to find a balance...taking care of oneself and not at the expense of otheres we love. My husband is very much untrustworthy and is so selfish...he never restarins indulging his wants and desires for his family but in public acts as if he's a genuine philanthropist. If people outside of his family ever knew the truth...his sons from his previous marriages also share my feelings...but they have escaped and get some of their emotional and physical needs met by their significant others. We are all hiuman abd therfore want and need others in some very basic ways. To be totally independent looks and acts like a NPD but without the outward abuse and use of those who are closest to us. I think I need to do as the other women in his past did and find myself a lover and best friend to fulfill the needs I have that I just can't give to myself.... teacher

Kim, Wow! I can't believe it! Talk about prov...

2011-01-15T20:36:15.613-08:00

Kim,

Wow! I can't believe it! Talk about providence. I too had an anxiety attack over the holidays. I was as calm as can be when it happened. I learned that is usually when it does happen. For the first time an ambulance had to come and took me to the hospital. I am only in my 40's and healthy so it was a surprise! I still have to find out my test results to be sure it is not the heart but so far the tests prove it wasn't so an anxiety attack is what I am considering. Your message was so timely! And I needed to hear everything you wrote. I am going to return to this site after I go to bed earlier and get some needed rest, and read more about those audios. I have a good friend and pen pal since we were sixteen who lives in Melbourne. I loved myself enough to leave the family for 10 days back in 2003 and meet and visit her. Awesome! I love Australia. Went to Sydney too. :) Also just have to say that I love what R in FL wrote. I totally agree!! Thank you again Kim.

L in GA

I know I appreciate it. the advice Kim has given m...

2011-01-15T15:45:23.625-08:00

I know I appreciate it. the advice Kim has given me was priceless and has actually helped the other person and I to move onto better things. Unfortunately my worldview of the people around me here in America is a dark cynical one. Too much corruption with too many helpless sheep, and the few good in between, get chewed up and spit out. There will be revolution in America, of the darkest sort and most Americans are ill equipped to handle whats coming down the pike. The best I can do is witness before God and probably end up telling the sheeple, "I told you so." Ill take any prayers anybody has. Much appreciated.

God bless, Andre'

Kim, Thank you so much for sharing your revelatio...

2011-01-14T22:09:56.824-08:00

Kim,

Thank you so much for sharing your revelations. We all have them but sometimes we don't even give ourselves permission to meditate on them and actually make them a part of our consciousness. It's time for that to change. And change takes time. Thank you so much for the encouragement.

Unfortunately, my relationship is not going to survive and I am coming to terms with that. Your ebooks have helped with that too. My husband is happy with the way he is and not willing to participate in changing the way we deal with each other. And I honestly don't know that I have the energy needed to keep going. I know I can change (it's very hard!!) but in the end it's worth it.

I'd like to respond to "Andre'" who posted here. Andre', I can completely relate to what you're saying and would ask that you consider things on a grander scale. You talk of the international narcissism that exists and I couldn't agree with you more. However, as pervasive as that poison may be, I don't believe in universal narcissism. Man in his present narcissist state (general, not individual) may believe that he is the ultimate and has the last say. But I don't buy it. We didn't create ourselves and just happen to be here by accident. There is a Creator who has a purpose for us and this planet. He hasn't forgotten what he's created and narcissism isn't part of his personality. When man thinks he is a demi-god, that's when narcissism prevails. It seems as if these self-made gods will win but look at what's really happening in the world. If a better world wasn't possible, we wouldn't hope for it. If there was no "right," we wouldn't recognize the wrong. It is possible and will soon be our reality. Please don't feel trapped. "Lift your heads up because your deliverance is getting near." I don't mean to preach, just encourage. Take care.

R in FL

Well Ill tell ya Kim, I have to give a more cynica...

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Well Ill tell ya Kim, I have to give a more cynical reply. I feel like we are all trying build our illusions in a world full of lies. Sooner or later, that world of lies falls apart. Some are really good at embracing the illusion; criminals, prostitutes, sports heros, actors etc... some try to fake it for a while with honorable work; carpenters, landscapers, laborers but what happens is the Inorganic Lie of the World starts to consume your equity, generosity and charity and you either go broke or die from some unnecessary medical/legal/government/social expense that intrudes into your life. Fighting for those trees, while honorable, takes time and energy out of the day and it shouldn't even be an issue in a healthy society. But some jerk comes along with the appearance of authority and "says so". This is one small example on a local level of the constant hexation from these intrusions that keep the foundation of lies for our illusions alive. This world is sick with International Narcissism. I feel trapped and I want out.
By the way, Happy Birthday! Andre'